Wednesday, February 25, 2015

From Almost Empty Nest to Full House

by M. J. Joachim

Busy is as busy does, and life keeps happening in between. Flexibility and a positive attitude are the answer if you ask me, that and being mindful of one’s needs, because if we don’t take proper care of ourselves, we certainly can’t take care of others. Nor can we be open to the blessings of others taking care of us too.

I suppose that’s what it’s really all about in this life, taking care of each other and doing our part. We can’t skimp out on the caring part, but we also need to be receptive to being cared for. It’s a balancing act that offers some of the most special moments and greatest gifts life has to offer, family and positive relationships devoted to the entire well being of each other.

Sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. Change needs to happen for a variety of reasons. Our job is to foster the change, knowing how necessary and good it is for those we love. Life carves its own path sometimes. After 7 years, living nearly two hours away, my daughter is finally home from college with our new granddaughter. We’re a very close family and you can bet we are thrilled to have them home.

I’ve been busy cleaning and preparing rooms. Since they arrived a few days ago, I’ve been busy cooking, cleaning and helping them unpack, not to mention holding my little granddaughter and loving on her more than I could ever imagine. We have a thing together, and her smiles light up my world!

It’s going to be hit or miss with my blogging and computer time for a while. This house just went from being almost too quiet, to bustling with energy and activity that seems to never stop. This mom just went from figuring out how to spend my days, to not having enough hours in the day to do all the things I need to do. Of course, I turned 50 this month, so that’s not a problem. The only thing that’s really pressing at this point in time is loving my family and enjoying every moment I get to spend with them more than I ever thought possible.

Towels, dishes, floors and windows can wait. Cooking can’t because we all love to eat and I’m having a grand time playing in the kitchen again. And hugs, there are way more than enough to go around.

Wishing you all wonderful moments with your families,

M. J.

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Monday, February 2, 2015

The Importance of Teenagers

by M. J. Joachim


Teenagers are amazing people. They seem to just overflow with ideas and enthusiasm. They understand right from wrong. Sometimes teenagers challenge authority. It isn't about rebellion, as much as it is an effort to find truth and justice. These individuals make choices that can change the world. Society takes teenagers for granted, often overlooking the good that they do.

As a group, teenagers have a reputation for being defiant, rowdy, and rebellious. Yet, they are some of the hardest working people we meet. Most of them juggle school, work, and entertainment while facing internal dilemmas about who they are and what they will become. Many of them have difficult home lives to add to their plight.

Teenagers face a world of rejection every day. They are stereotyped, judged, and ignored. Some of them act out just to get noticed. It is not easy to prepare for adulthood; young adults need to have interaction with people other than their peers. While many of them push the limits, most of them stop before things get out of control.

Teenagers face serious consequences for pushing the limits if and when they get caught. Not only do they have to answer to the person who caught them, but they also get to chalk one up for adding to the reputation of all teenagers. Everyone seems to get involved. Authorities contact parents. Parents contact teachers. Teachers recommend counselors. Siblings want things the way they used to be. No adult would have to deal with so much scrutiny for an offense that, while not being a very smart choice, didn't cause very much harm in the grand scheme of things.

Teenagers are often taken for granted because they embrace life without being controlled by it. Eventually, they become adults who give into societal norms and expectations. For now though, they will seek to find their place in the world, often wondering if they belong at all. They will follow the rite of passage that allows them to act out, only to be called normal rebellious teens.

Teenagers will pull away from their parents in an effort to become themselves, ever thankful that their parents knew it was just a phase. Then one day, as they make their way through life, they will spread their wings and fly, just like a butterfly coming forth from a cocoon. Suddenly, after a long exhaustive journey, they will emerge anchored by the love that allowed them to become who they are.

Their journey will take everyone around them on an amazing adventure. When people take time to listen to teenagers, they will often be amazed at what is said. Teenagers dream of making the world a better place. They question faith and rules that don't make sense to them in a genuine effort to understand. Sometimes their questions lead the rest of the world to stop and take pause.

Without simple reflection on why we believe, or how we can improve society, we become caught up in achieving success. Too often we ignore the process it takes to achieve our goals, without checking our work along the way. That's when teenagers become invaluable. Certainly society could never live without people who not only make sure we do the right thing, but that we are doing it for the right motives as well. On that note, I hope you hug your favorite teen today. I know I will!

Thanks for visiting Effectively Human today.

M. J. Joachim

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Friday, January 30, 2015

Inspire Your Heart with Art Day - January 31, 2015

by M. J. Joachim


Tomorrow is the annual Inspire Your Heart with Art Day 2015 celebration. I discovered this day through the Patience Brewster Company. The idea behind the event is to get people to celebrate art. How one decides to celebrate art doesn’t really matter, though one of the goals is to fill art museums and craft shops with lots of visitors. However, being creative and making arts and crafts projects, along with blogging about art is also perfectly acceptable, as is attending the theater and concerts.

Art is all around us. I see it everywhere I look and create it in many of my activities during the day. Writing and blogging are art based for me. I paint pictures with words, design blog posts on five blogs and delve into the art world every day. I also garden on the open canvas of my back and front yard. Plus, I cook, making every attempt to make my dishes as beautiful as they are tasty. Presentation truly makes a difference and often makes a home much more welcoming and comfortable.

Crochet is one of my obvious art forms. Lately photography and video too. My daughter called me and encouraged me with my nature videos last night. She thinks they are pretty cool. You know what I think is cool? The awe-inspiring nature that made them possible. I was just the one with the cell phone taking the pictures, photos that might never be seen, without the help of something much beyond my comprehension taking place somewhere, out there.





So it is with art. We become inspired and use tools at our disposal to make new and interesting things. Someone once told me, we either create or destroy things in this life. To a certain extent, I agree. The rest of the time, we just move things around and change things up a bit. It’s one of the reasons I’m happy to participate in Inspire Your Heart with Art Day this year, because for as much as we create and destroy, sometimes it’s truly inspirational to reflect on the process that makes it possible to see beauty all around us.

Please consider this your invitation to participate in Inspire Your Heart with Art Day 2015. Leave a note in the comments if you plan to participate, and I’ll be sure to stop by and visit your blog.

All the best to you and yours! Have a safe and wonderful weekend and enjoy the Super Bowl this Sunday.

M. J.

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Thursday, January 29, 2015

House Cleaning Exercises

by M. J. Joachim


If only there was a miracle cure to shed those unwanted pounds. You work all day, don't have energy to go to the gym, and then come home to a messy house that you don't have time to clean. There must be a solution, but what? How could you possibly find time to go to work all day, exercise, and clean your house, especially when you have far too many social engagements planned for the weekend?

It's time to reevaluate your situation and change your attitude about all the things you have to do. You can find time to exercise and clean your home if you combine the two activities. You will also benefit from gaining extra energy as you get in better shape. All it takes is a little creativity, and a whole lot of determination.

The following chore exercise program will help you combine getting in shape and losing weight while keeping your home clean and tidy with ease. Please sit back and enjoy this article for a few minutes, because by the time you are done reading it, you'll be ready for an awesome new workout plan that leaves your home spic and span.

*Spotless floor stretches: This activity incorporates limited yoga poses with cleaning your linoleum or tile floor. You will need 1 small bath towel, 1 large beach towel, soapy water, some energetic music, and a smile. Now, soak the small bath towel in water. Get down on your hands and knees and wash the floor, leaving it fairly wet. As you scrub the floor, crouch down and then stretch your arms out as far as you can reach to get the dirt from the corners. Once your floor is clean, stand up and throw your beach towel on it. Stand on the towel, and using your hips, swing back and forth across the wet floor to dry it. Dance with the music if you can, and have fun working out while you make your floor shine.

*Dustless weight lifting: This activity builds and tones your muscles. You will need a dust cloth, your favorite dusting polish, a few boxes, some Rocky music, and a large bottle of water. You will need to empty out your book or movie case, putting everything into your boxes. Now bend down and take those boxes into the next room. Go back and thoroughly dust the cabinet that held your items. Walk into the next room, bend down and pick up your boxes one by one, taking them back to their shelf and putting them away; dust each one as you do. Make sure to drink plenty of water as needed.

*Laundry aerobics: This activity speeds up your heart rate and makes doing the laundry a little more interesting. You will need a washer/dryer, laundry soap, dirty laundry, and music. Instead of using a basket to carry your dirty laundry to the laundry room, pile it in your arms and carry it yourself. Make as many trips as you can while racing to and from the washing machine. When the laundry has finished drying, fold and iron it quickly, using swift, easy motions. Then make several short trips to run and put everything away. You'd be surprised at how many calories you can burn just by running back and forth in your own home.

Cleaning the house and losing weight are two pretty tough activities. By combining them, and adding a little fun to the mix, you will shed pounds, enjoy a cleaner home, and definitely have more to smile about. That is until you look inside your refrigerator and see all those wonderful temptations. Ah, no bother, simply use squats to throw out all the forbidden food, and practice weightlifting to replace it with the good stuff!

I’m still working on losing those extra pounds from the holidays and thought this might energize me a bit. Of course, sharing with others who might offer encouragement is always a bonus.  Not into housework, no problem. I also make great use of exercising in the garden, especially this time of year.

Thanks for stopping by and visiting Effectively Human today.

M. J.

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Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Balancing Act, January 2015

by M. J. Joachim



Christmas came and went, literally THAT FAST!

2015 came in with fireworks, rain and snowflakes here in sunny Arizona. I missed it. We thought it was rain, didn’t bother to step outside to check it out or anything. In the shadow of the streetlamp, it really did look just like rain. We woke to the surrounding mountains covered in a light dusting of snow. No real bang to speak of in our neck of the woods, though I did win $100 at a local casino we’d never been to before and took my husband out to lunch.

I was diagnosed with Celiac just before Christmas. Having gone gluten free on my own a year and a half ago, it made me glad I made conscious choices that make me feel better, and they weren’t based on psychosomatic whims or preferences. We really do know what’s best for us sometimes, and more often than not, it is not all in our heads. Though I do think stress plays a powerful role in how we eat, sleep and physically feel per se.

Life has been taking me by storm since the new year started. I mean that. It’s been raining for a couple of days now. The neighbors leaves are falling off her deciduous tree like they do every January, to leave a maze of exposed branches willowing in the wind until spring. I’ve been so good about picking up the leaves (and dog messes) every day lately. Sure beats letting the backyard explode and taking care of it for hours at a time toward the end of the month, like I normally do.

My kids are preparing to go their own way soon. I knew it was coming this year, just thought it would be in the latter half of it. Turns out it will be much sooner than I thought, (Mom writes as she thinks of all the boxes she packed with kitchen items she doesn’t need duplicates of anymore.) Yea, mixed emotions on that one. Thankfully, it’s all on good terms and a perfectly natural transition into adulthood. Happy fireworks once again, maybe a loving tear here and there too.

Habits and cycles are easy. We all get into them, become familiar with the norm, how things are and how they should be. Then one day, they aren’t suppose to be that way anymore, so we make changes - big, small, whatever seems best at the time, hoping to find a new pattern that will lend itself easily to a habit or cycle we can live with, because if not, we will inevitably need to make more changes. I’m okay with that. Living isn’t supposed to be hard. That’s not to imply it won’t ever take us by storm and test our stamina. Of course it will, and when it does, we will be happier if we respectfully embrace the wind that whirls us, and dance in the rain that promises renewal and energy to keep us healthy and happy for years to come.

This is M. J. checking in to say, “I haven’t fallen off the planet yet. It’s just been a dizzy start to a wonderful new year, and I’m trying to catch my balance before I slip, fall down or accidentally hurt myself.”

Wishing you rainbows with your rain,

M. J.

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Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Presenting Yourself in a Resume

by M. J. Joachim
Resumes are documents that represent the people behind them. Creating a resume that depicts an accurate portrayal of yourself when making your own resume is vital. You can use your resume to showcase confidence, drive and skills. More importantly, you can set yourself apart with your resume, giving you more opportunity to be noticed.

Be Specific When Listing Your Past Job History
Instead of generalizing your background in education, provide clear detail about what you did, including your exact job description. For example, you could list yourself as a teacher, or you can list yourself as a child development specialist for special education students. Details should be listed right in the title, and not delegated to your job description after the fact.

Keep Your Resume Focused
Use your resume to prove your ability to be detail oriented. Prospective employers will not take the time to sift through a bunch of job descriptions and words that don’t apply to the position you are seeking. Their first impression needs to be one that shows you know what they want and can easily deliver it.

Sell Your Skills in Your Resume
This is your opportunity to shine. You have one or two pages to let someone see you on paper. Make it count by using your bragging rights. You’ve earned them. All those accomplishments and awards need to be on display right there in your resume, especially if they match the job description you are applying for.

Study the Marketplace and Employers
Be knowledgeable about the jobs you are applying for. Research company histories, retail competitors, who else is applying for the same jobs, financial status, and everything else you can discover. Use this information to personalize your resume. You may even find out a prospective employer isn’t really a prospect for you in this process. Always do your homework to learn which companies are the best to work for.

Think Outside the Box
Employers want people who can generate new ideas and help their businesses grow. They need employees who are willing to brainstorm and try to make a difference. Most companies realize that for every ten ideas, only one will go the distance. Show your prospective bosses that you bring new ideas and energy to their firm. Let them know that you’re willing to work hard and try new things that will set them apart in the corporate world.

Develop an Active, Accomplishment Driven Image of Yourself
Write your resume in the present tense, showing that you strive for results now, not in the past. Energize your resume with relevant keywords that provide a sense of urgency to prospective employers, creating a defined sense of loss if they push your resume aside.

When you write your resume, be honest and bold about who you are. Avoid being “in your face”, but don’t sell yourself short either. Keep your resume as brief and to the point as possible. This document is a tool that will help you get the interview. Save some surprises for your face to face meeting where you will close the deal with a smile and a handshake.

Resume writing isn’t always easy. Hopefully these tips will help you make your resume shine. Speaking of sharing accomplishments, a friend of mine started a new craft blog. I’m over there showing you how to make beaded ornaments today, so if you’d like to learn some fun crafts, Craftie Annie has some very neat ideas and tutorials. Please check it out and give her some support with her brand new blog.

Only a few more days until Christmas…ah the rush of the season! Here’s hoping we all find time to breathe and enjoy it this year.

M. J.

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Tuesday, December 16, 2014

10 Ways to Have More Money at the End of the Month

by M. J. Joachim

With Christmas right around the corner, I thought this article might be helpful for a lot of us.

It's that time of the month again! You know the one, beginning, middle, or end, when money seems to be just a little bit less, and you still have to pay for so many things. We've all been there at one time or another. Too many times, we've wished for a few simple ideas that would make getting into the habit of saving just a bit more fun, or at least not so difficult.

Using the resources of experts and ordinary people, you now have access to some very easy money saving tips that can readily turn into good habits. Feel free to try as many of them as you like. Then watch those pennies multiply, giving you less stress, and more financial freedom.

1. Make lists of your necessities and wants. Your entire family could participate in this activity, allowing younger members to learn about saving before they end up paying bills. The trick is to be honest, and not complain about giving up things that no one really needs.

2. Create opportunities and incentives to save. Place change jars strategically around your home. Mark them with a line, and when the change reaches it, give your family a well deserved reward. Have a larger jar available to combine change from the little jars as they reach their mark. The money collected in this jar goes straight to your savings account.

3. Shop wisely. Check prices against amounts in containers. Too often you will save more by buying several smaller packages, as opposed to a larger one. Use coupons, and don't waste gas travelling across town to save a few pennies on a single loaf of bread. Instead, head to the bank and deposit the money you saved in your savings account.

4. Spend within your budget. If you don't have the money, don't spend it. Put away the credit cards. Read a book instead of renting a movie. Prepare a home cooked meal instead of eating out. It is far too easy to get into debt, and next to impossible to get out of it.

5. Divide your money into categories. Give each category a monthly allowance. Once it's spent, there is no more. Anything left over at the end of the month gets deposited into your savings account, or helps pay other bills.

6. Pay off your bills. Don't just make payments every month. Make a point to work at paying them off. Keep track of your success, and make adjustments when necessary. As each bill gets paid off, put the money you save into your savings account or toward another bill that needs to get paid off.

7. Set reasonable goals for yourself. If you know it's going to take 6 months to pay off your Visa card, don't try to do it in 3. This will only lead to frustration, and probably more spending. Of course, if you come into some extra cash that enables you to pay it off in 3 months, don't hesitate to do so.

8. Practice using less and saving the money. This might sound obvious, but it is a little harder than you might think. Saving money is exciting; a lot of people take their savings and immediately spend it on something else out of sheer joy. It is important to practice putting that money away. Avoid spending it at all costs, until saving it becomes second nature through practice.

9. Play money saving games. Turn saving money into a fun activity. Give each family member a piggy bank, and compete to see who fills theirs first. Get into the routine of playing "Put It Back" with your kids at the store. Practice math skills when making purchases, determining the best value for your money. These ideas will save you money, while teaching your children better spending habits.

10. Know your numbers. Request your credit report. Keep track of your taxes. Understand you bank and mortgage statements. Question things that don't make sense, and be responsible for where your money ends up. If you are paying too much interest on something, do the research to get a better deal. Take responsibility for the money you pay, and put aside your savings.

Spending money is easy. That's why so many of us think it is difficult to save. Yet, if we put as much effort into saving our hard earned dollars, as we do into spending them, it wouldn't be difficult at all. With a little practice and perseverance, we would all have a little more cash at the end of the month.

If you have some easy and fun money saving tips, please share them in the comments and join the discussion. It’s all in the name of being effectively human and helping each other live the best lives possible, after all.

Thanks so much for visiting, commenting and sharing my post today.

M. J.

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