Thursday, February 7, 2013

How Our Habits Affect Our Relationships

by M. J. Joachim
Friendships can be a little tricky.  We start out exercising our absolute best habits, so as not to offend the other party.  This in turn lays the groundwork for two or more people to form a relationship based on common ground.  As the relationship matures, people tend to get more comfortable.  Guards and pretenses are left behind, and boundaries are extended to allow for a more in-depth and secure bond.

Although people are creatures of habit, they are also in a constant state of change.  Anyone who is alive, not just figuratively, but wholly and completely, is striving to get more out of the life they have.  That’s one of the reasons we seek friendships and relationships with other people.  We need them to learn and grow, so that we can become better people in the process.

Our best habits must never be set aside, especially when we seek true friendship with other individuals.  But what are our best habits and how do we define them?  These are the things that make us who we are, allowing us to show our true selves to the world.  Our best habits have nothing to do with whether or not we must have our morning cup of coffee in order to function.  Rather they are about how we respond to others when, for some reason, that morning cup of coffee wasn’t available.

Habits reveal character flaws that can and do sabotage our friendships.  If we have a tendency to get mad when things don’t go our way, it will be revealed as a true character trait exposed by our habit of expectancy.  This leads to further exposure when we are forced to deal with that character trait, either in a negative or positive light. Friendships are weighed in the balance, as people come in and out of our lives.

We all have a multitude of good and bad habits that we impose on the world by virtue of our very existence.  The fact remains, that as much as we have to tolerate and overlook the habits of others, they also must do the same for us, if a friendship is ever to be formed and nurtured at all.

Thank you for visiting Effectively Human.

Until next time, I wish you every good thing.

M. J. 

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