Letters to Self is a Self-help series written by M. J. Joachim, designed to encourage and promote healing and self-awareness for those who read it.
Kindness is key to anyone’s survival. People crave to be treated with kindness. We all need to feel loved and accepted. When people are unkind to us, we often use the standard fight or flee response. Some of us will fight like crazy, defending ourselves and those of our loved ones, while others will flee, shut down, cower and take such unkindness to heart.
When we take unkindness to heart, we reinforce self-loathing and hatred. We lose our innate sense of self worth and purpose. This is all the more reason to be kind to ourselves, particularly when others are mean to us.
Disregard those negative messages, replacing them with kind words to yourself that make you feel better. You don’t have to fight or flee to do this. All you need to do is retract the animosity, by replacing it with positive messages.
When we see someone being bullied or treated unkindly, we should remember to be kind. Respond to the person who might take such treatment to mean they are less than others, and reinforce to them that they are just as important as anyone. They were born for a reason and regardless of what anyone thinks of them, they are a good person meant to be in this world.
No one can help anyone be kind to himself, if that same person is filled with negative self-messages. Be kind to yourself first, so you can genuinely share the gift of self-kindness with others.
I like you! I love you! You are a gift to this world!
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